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Progress Not Perfection: Riding Out Low Moods More Gracefully In Relationships

Angus and I are at the 3PGC conference this weekend in Manhattan Beach. Before heading in we share about how we have gotten better at navigating each other's low moods. There is no perfection, but a little bit of lightness goes a long way. In a recent incident where Angus got elevated, me not taking it personally helped make it easier on both of us. Remembering we are okay, in the face of our feelings or another person's upset is very reassuring.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and...

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Relationships Aren’t Always as Delicious as a Hot Fudge Sundae

Angus demonstrates his superpower of being able to repeat the content of what was said even though he was thinking about something else. The point I was making is that we often think we need to manage and improve ourselves out of fear of not being good enough, but this pressure to be good and to be better actually brings out the worst in ourselves and other people. The point that emerged as we were speaking is that people often feel like there is something wrong with their relationship if it isn’t always as delicious as a hot fudge sundae,...

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Living Life Full Out and Being All In in Relationships!

The Principles understanding applies to all areas of life just like gravity applies to all areas on earth, but the area that I experienced and continue to witness dramatic and inspiring results both for myself and others is in relationships. When I came across the understanding I thought Angus and I had a good marriage. We had, in the past, had very difficult times, but we were on more solid ground. But, when I got a deeper experience of my wellbeing and absolute okayness no matter what my emotional, mental, or physical experience, it had a profound impact on our relationship....

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The Soul-Centered Series Webinar with Erika Bugbee on Parenting Teens and Young Adults

In this webinar, Erika shares her profound understanding related to parenting teens and young adults. It is a great reminder to look in the direction of the infinite intelligence behind life for ourselves and for our young people.   Erika Bugbee, M.A. works with teens, young adults, and parents from all over the world both virtually and in-person. She's spent two decades helping people individually, facilitating workshops, teaching groups, and presenting at webinars and conferences both nationally and internationally.   Rohini Ross is the founder and presenter of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. The next Soul-Centered Series starts  October 2019...

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The Perils of Taming Your Partner

Angus and I learned the hard way about the perils of trying to tame each other. I see now how out of my insecurity I tried to change Angus to try and make him fit my preferences so I was more comfortable.   It was a complete game changer when I recognized that he can never be responsible for my emotional experience and that I can be okay with all of my feelings. So freeing to see that I did not need him to be different for me to feel okay.   Understanding that my emotional experience is a reflection of my inner state...

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Rewilding Your Relationship Vlog

It is such a relief to see that relationships work best when we are ourselves. Allowing ourselves to be in our natural state takes the pressure off. Having the freedom to be real and raw brings out the best in ourselves and our partner. What gets us into trouble is when we get scared and try to tame our ourselves and/or our partner to try and make the fear go away.   Angus tried to tame my tears in the past. He would get scared by the intensity of my feelings and try to snap me out of them. This was never...

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Insightful Conversation with Del Adey-Jones

Click here for the recording of my interview with Del where I share how the understanding of the Principles dramatically improved the quality of my marriage and how my husband Angus and I now work together helping other couples deepen their love.   Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, a regular blogger for Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) available on Amazon. You can get her free ebook Relationships here. Rohini currently has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and...

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Rewilding Your Relationship

Angus and I love the story of how the wolves changed Yellowstone Park. You can watch the captivating video here narrated by George Monbiot. The video shares how wolves were reintroduced to Yellowstone National Park after being absent for nearly 70 years and shows the incredible and surprising impact on the environment that occurs from this rewilding endeavor. George Monbiot has also written a book Feral that illustrates his efforts to re-engage with nature and discover a new way of living. His book shows how, with rewilding, when nature is allowed to find its own way, damaged ecosystems on land and...

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Sexual Frustration is in the Mind

Sexual Frustration is in the Mind. This is our contribution to International Women’s Day. Sexual frustration is made up.   In the past, Angus and I would have a lot of conflict over the frequency of sex. He would take personally if I had a low sex drive. I would take it personally that he would take it personally and goodwill would plummet in our relationship. And along with it my desire for sex would decrease even further and Angus' frustration would intensify. It began to look like a real problem between us as our resentment grew.   What we both see now is...

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Instant Pot Blow Up

Angus doesn’t like change. He wasn’t pleased when I replaced the pressure cooker he loves that has a coating on the bottom that is peeling off with a stainless steel Instant Pot. He kept the old pot, but conceded to use the new pot. We had a hangry blow up this week when the new pot seemed to be malfunctioning with a burn feature, and I went to get something else to eat. That was too much for Angus already out of his comfort zone using the new pot. I did not stay neutral and reacted to his anger, but...

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