Personal Development | Rohini Ross - Part 6

You Can’t Stop Negative Thoughts, But You Don’t Have to Take Them Seriously

Sometimes new clients think the understanding I share with them is too simple, and even long-term clients in a moment of distress can get frustrated and want me to give them something to do rather than point them in the direction of how their experience is created. It is always my intention to help my clients reduce their suffering. I believe the best way to do this is to help them see more clearly the full picture of where their experience comes from rather than giving them techniques and strategies to deal with a very narrow part of it. Trying to...

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You are the Dreamer: See that and You See Your Infinite Potential

This thought occurred to me this week, "Our job is not to change the dream. It is to wake up from the dream, and then dream the dream from that awakening." Once we see we are the dreamer, we live in the dream in a completely different way.   All of the how to programs out there focus on how to change our experience in the dream -- how to enjoy the dream more with greater inner peace or more toys. Inner or outer, it doesn't really matter if we don't know we are the dreamer. Whether we are trying to change our thinking...

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Change is Easy When Reality is Paper-Thin

I have been thinking about how amazing it is that we each live in our own separate reality that we create. We see our thinking and feel it. Each of us experiences the world uniquely. Our reality looks very solid and consistent, but we are creating it moment to moment. As one of my clients said recently, reality is paper-thin. In fact, it is even thinner than that. Thought has no weight and can shift in an instant.   That is how easy it is to change. We have a fresh thought, an insight, a realization. We see something new beyond the projection...

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How Does Personal Change Happen?

I was listening to a 3PGC talk recently and heard Chip Chipman say, "The true self cannot be described. It can only be felt." I had an "aha!" moment and understood more clearly what Sydney Banks was pointing to when he says in his recordings, "The wisdom is in the feeling. You are looking for a feeling." I hear it now as another way of saying you are looking for your true self, and you will know you have found it by the feelings that accompany it. We all know the beautiful feelings we are capable of having. They let us...

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There is No Solid You — You Are Infinite Potential

I was in a discussion group this week and writer's block was mentioned. It never occurred to me that I could get writer's block. Then as soon as I started thinking about it, I started to worry about it happening to me. It was the equivalent of medical student's disease. This happens when medical students experience the symptoms of the disease they are studying. I started to bring the experience of writer's block into fruition just by thinking about it.   It was interesting to watch me bring something I had never considered before into my experience and make it feel real simply by thinking...

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We All Draw From the Same Well of Infinite Potential

One of my clients asked me recently if I believed everyone has the same capacity for empathy? I believe we do. At our core we are all loving beings with the same infinite potential of our formless nature. We may not, however, all share it in the same way. I realized he asked the question because not everybody demonstrates the same amount of empathy. In fact, even on a personal level we don’t consistently show the same amount of empathy in each situation. We all have different levels of being aware of and experiencing our true nature, but this doesn’t mean...

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Experience Greater Peace of Mind by Understanding How Harmless Negative Emotions Are

"Spiritual bypass" is a term coined by the psychologist John Welwood. In an interview with Tina Fossil, Welwood defines a spiritual bypass as when the goal of spiritual awakening is used to try "to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it." He warns that this "leads to a conceptual, one-sided kind of spirituality where one pole of life is elevated at the expense of its opposite: Absolute truth is favored over relative truth, the impersonal over the personal, emptiness over form, transcendence over embodiment, and detachment over...

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Let’s Stop Working On Ourselves!

I have been noticing a theme with my clients across the board from the work I do with leaders, to teams, to individual clients. There is a focus on there being something wrong with them, and a pervasive idea that they would feel better and perform better once it is fixed. Their "it" could be insecurity, worry, lack of motivation, feelings of overwhelm -- fill in the blank. However, instead of diving into what they see as the problem, I help them recognize that whatever the experience is that they want to get rid of, it is not the problem. The problem...

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What a Relief — You Are Perfect Exactly As You Are!

Have you ever seen a self-help book or personal growth seminar that isn't focused on changing you? Every piece of marketing material that comes my way is tantalizing me to improve myself. The lure of being a better me with better thinking, better feelings, better achievements, and a better consciousness used to be so compelling, but it was also damaging. It painfully reinforced my belief that I was broken, damaged, and not good enough exactly as I was.   There are very few teachers telling people they are perfect exactly as they are. Not enough reassuring us there is no need to change,...

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How an Understanding of the Three Principles Illuminates the Power of Thought

I was introduced to the Three Principles in 2011. I wasn’t looking for an introduction. I was simply pursuing a coaching certification to add to my qualifications. Steve Hardison recommended Michael Neill’s Supercoach Academy, and who was I to argue with “The Ultimate Coach.” Little did I know that Michael Neill was in the midst of his own “inside-out revolution” and was in the process of reorganizing his school around the teachings of the Three Principles. On one of the Supercoach weekends, I heard George and Linda Pransky speak. I was drawn in. I wanted to learn more. I could...

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