emotional intelligence | Rohini Ross - Part 5

The World Needs More Heart

I am looking forward to participating in the Resiliency Track for The Awesome Event happening this weekend October 27-29 in Charlottesville, VA. In-person and virtual tickets are still available. Considering recent events in the town, it feels poignant that an event focused on awakening the human potential and for inspiring solutions is being held there. Greater access to and a deeper experience of resilience is one of the most clear and practical benefits of having an understanding of the Three Principles. Understanding how the mind works and our innate ability to experience the infinite, formless potential of our true nature is...

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You Can’t Stop Negative Thoughts, But You Don’t Have to Take Them Seriously

Sometimes new clients think the understanding I share with them is too simple, and even long-term clients in a moment of distress can get frustrated and want me to give them something to do rather than point them in the direction of how their experience is created. It is always my intention to help my clients reduce their suffering. I believe the best way to do this is to help them see more clearly the full picture of where their experience comes from rather than giving them techniques and strategies to deal with a very narrow part of it. Trying to...

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The Paradox of Low Moods and Innate Wellbeing

I have a reputation for being an experimenter with my health. I came across naturopathic medicine in my twenties, and my eyes were opened to the myriad of holistic choices there are to support physical health. However, sometimes things don't work out well when I take matters into my own hands. There was the time I had a rash on my chest, and I put a garlic poultice on it. The application became incredible painful. I just assumed that meant it was working. I ended up with a second-degree burn and a scar that lasted for years. Another time I...

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He Said, She Said: Denying Restorative Cuddles Is Bad For Rapport

Angus shares how invisible thinking can be at times related to low moods, and how easy it is for conflict to ensue. Rohini speaks to the humanness of our moods even when we know we create our experience from our own thoughts, and acknowledges that it can be hard to see thought as the culprit of upset in real time.   Also, click here for the link to the upcoming workshop "Relationship Essentials" Angus and I are facilitating with Carrie and Mark Sisson.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love...

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Experience Greater Peace of Mind by Understanding How Harmless Negative Emotions Are

"Spiritual bypass" is a term coined by the psychologist John Welwood. In an interview with Tina Fossil, Welwood defines a spiritual bypass as when the goal of spiritual awakening is used to try "to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it." He warns that this "leads to a conceptual, one-sided kind of spirituality where one pole of life is elevated at the expense of its opposite: Absolute truth is favored over relative truth, the impersonal over the personal, emptiness over form, transcendence over embodiment, and detachment over...

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He Said, She Said: Angus’ Incredible Mind Reading Abilities

Rohini is shocked to find out that Angus feels triggered by her thoughts even when she doesn't say them out loud. This feels unfair to her, but she is reassured when Angus acknowledges that his feelings are a reflection of him giving meaning to his thoughts and nothing to do with her....

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Relationship Rescue: Don’t Take Your Arguments Seriously

When I am upset, the whole world looks different. Before, I would react to my perceptions and try and fix things from a place of disturbance. If my relationship looked like a problem, I would work on that. This usually resulted in fireworks and not of the sexual kind. If work was looking like a challenge, I would consume myself with trying to figure it out. This left me feeling stressed, discouraged, and hopeless, as I would mentally wear myself out from the unproductive spinning of my negative thoughts.   In the past, I have been overly focused on the shifting experience...

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Relax! Your Personality is Just a Thin Slice of Who You Are

It is such an easy trap to fall into, thinking our upset comes from outside of us. I have done it and still do it at times. It is easy to buy into the illusion that we feel our circumstances and not our thinking. Our emotions flood our experience so quickly it is hard to see the role thought plays in creating our reality.   Just this week I got really flustered when a video conference link wasn't working. I couldn't get into the meeting room to join the group I was supposed to be facilitating. When it was happening, it felt...

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Taking the Plank Out of My Eye — Nothing Can Disturb My Peace Other than My Thinking

When I scrolled through my emails recently, I saw one from an established coach listed as personal. The email title was my name. When I open the email, it said, "Do you have space for a new coaching client, Rohini?" I have seen this email before. I remember it.   Six months ago, I was speaking with a new coach developing his practice. We were discussing how his business was going, and he was very excited that he had received a personal email from this coach asking him if he was interested in new coaching client. He assumed the email was specific...

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Wake Up to Your Well Being and Share Your Love

I am at the airport incredibly early now that I have embraced my husband’s caution regarding missing flights. I would have still made the flight if there had been an earthquake in London. However, since I am traveling alone, this gives me plenty of time to reflect on the amazing three-day workshop I just finished co-facilitating.   The workshop was amazing because of the incredible participants. The level of openness, willingness, authenticity, vulnerability, honesty, and courage they demonstrated was deeply inspiring. I feel grateful to have witnessed the transformation and learning that each person demonstrated and shared. The depth of the love...

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