emotional intelligence | Rohini Ross

Awakening to Presence: Healing, Feeling, and the Magic of Being

It has been a while since you have heard from me. I have been dealing with some health challenges after taking a while to recover from Covid. And Angus had knee replacement surgery, so I've been supporting him in his recovery. He is doing really well. The doctor said he is ahead of 90% of his patients at this stage, so his commitment to physiotherapy is paying off.   My health needs and supporting Angus have forced me to slow down.   In slowing down, I noticed a layer of numbness being stripped away. I became aware of a level of dissociation from my...

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The Freedom to Embrace Wholeness However YOU Want

Angus and I did a psilocybin journey recently as part of our ongoing exploration of consciousness. I used to be very judgmental about plant medicine. Coming from a strong indoctrination in yogic and meditation traditions, I saw psychedelics as cheating. I then became involved in a more Christian-based spiritual group that expressly prohibited plant medicine, including marijuana, but not alcohol, interestingly enough. However, during this time, I was introduced to plant medicine and participated in a ceremony where I took a heart-opener. As a novice, the guide gave me the starter potion.   I had a blissful time. I experienced myself as a...

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There Is No Safety to Be Found in Relationships

Angus wrote what turned out to be a somewhat controversial Instagram post a few weeks ago where he said, “Your partner cannot make you feel anything.”   And I received a question recently asking what does safety look like in relationships?   So I thought it would be helpful to make a clarification between the psychological perspective and the spiritual perspective. There is so much focus on psychotherapy in Western culture that this viewpoint has become embedded in our worldview and the dominant cultural narrative so that it becomes part of the invisible lens through which we see things. This makes it seem like...

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Unlocking the Power Within: Transforming Your Relationship and Embracing Infinite Possibilities

Angus and I interviewed Ankush Jain recently for our Rewilders Community, and he reminded us how people could give up too easily. In life and relationships, we can get used to an unhealthy normal. We often don't see where we have given up hope due to our inability to see possibilities even though the potential is there. Our conditioning clouds our judgment, and we trust the lens through which we see life rather than recognizing that we don't see the whole reality with all its possibilities.   This made me think about relationships and how couples can feel they are in a...

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Being Kind to Yourself is Good for You and Your Relationship

The Inner Narrator and Its Impact   You are probably aware of the voice in your head, the inner narrator commenting on you and your life. Rather than being in the moment, it judges the moment. This human proclivity does not mean something is wrong with you, and it is not something to fix or change about yourself. However, I have found it helpful to be mindful of the quality of thinking it shares with me.   Recently I haven't been feeling well for an extended period. Due to a mild autoimmune disorder flare-up, I haven't been my usual self with my normal energy...

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Building Stronger Relationships Through Universal Understanding

I listened to this episode of the Emerald podcast, The Revolution Will Not Be Psychologized and loved the distinction Joshua Schrei makes between western psychology and other communal forms of healing. This aligns with The Rewilders' view that personal healing and relationship transformation comes from a deeper understanding of our impersonal nature rather than delving into the individual content of our thoughts, feelings, and experiences and trying to improve ourselves that way.   Our focus is to support our clients with having a deeper experience of their true nature. That experience is the real source of transformation and healing. Rather than delving into...

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Ten Relationship Basics

I’ve written about how I used to be super-sensitive in my relationship with Angus and how that created a negative downward spiral between us, with each of us adding more negativity to our communication with each other and slashing the feeling of goodwill between us in the process. . I would blame him for how I felt. I thought if only he were kinder and less irritable then I would be happier. I would voice my criticism. He would take my criticism personally and become less kind and more irritable in the process. . We managed to create a negative amount of goodwill in...

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Peel Off the Persona and Embrace All of Who You Are

I feel like I am on a growing edge and ready to see something new beyond my conditioned beliefs around people-pleasing, being liked, and being a good girl. To my horror, my sense of arrogance and superiority is becoming more visible to me. I have spent years in the comfortable familiarity of my feelings of unworthiness, but my consciousness is shifting focus to a more painful realization of my attitudes and beliefs of being superior and special.   I feel sick writing it down. My self-loathing is strong.   On a recent webinar where I was a guest speaker, Natasha Swerdloff spoke of vanity...

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Angus Gets Hot and Bothered and Thinks He Has a Fever

Our hearts go out to everyone who is impacted by COVID-19. We send love and wish everyone good health and safety during this time. Things got more real for us when Angus found out his cousin was on a ventilator due to the illness. To make matters worse this sent him into an internal tailspin of worry. Fortunately, after his fever scare, he settled and saw what he was doing. We hope this Vlog reminds you to look within for your peace of mind and security, now and always. Of course, we all get pulled into thinking we need things...

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Seeing Psychological Innocence Is Not The Same As Being A Doormat

There can be confusion between seeing someone's psychological innocence and condoning their behavior. The two are often conflated. This Vlog hopefully clarifies this and if it doesn't please leave questions in the comments below.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state...

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