Do You Ever Feel Worthless and Insecure and Want to Feel Better?

Are you struggling with feelings of insecurity? Does it look like these feelings get in the way of your success and being able to relax and enjoy your life?   I can absolutely relate. I used to be driven by my feelings of insecurity. I tried to outrun them by working hard. I pushed. I strived. I forced myself. I punished myself. I felt not good enough, and I believed I needed to work my way out of my low self-esteem. Self-improvement was my focus.   That was my coping mechanism. I got lots of positive acknowledgments from this on the outside. I...

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Becoming Discouragement Proof and Appreciating The Unknown

A typical learning curve has a slow beginning followed by steep acceleration until it eventually evens out into a plateau. Here is an example of what one looks like: Today I am writing about the slow beginning stage. It is common when I work with clients for them to be hard on themselves and to become discouraged during this stage. I hear comments like: “I don’t know what I’m doing.” “I’m stuck.” “Nothing is happening!” “I’m doing it wrong.” There is a frequent misconception that more information is needed at this time to help figure out how to reach the acceleration...

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Optimal Performance With or Without Confidence

I've been preparing for a corporate training next week and the theme they want to explore is confidence. There are two things that occur to me about confidence right now:   Confidence is our natural state. It doesn't matter if we feel confident or not.   Regarding confidence being our natural state, I used to think the exact opposite. I thought that confidence was something I was lacking, and I needed to find it, create it, and fix my issues so that I could experience it. This was a very painful way to view confidence. It reinforced my belief that I was...

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There is No Solid You — You Are Infinite Potential

I was in a discussion group this week and writer's block was mentioned. It never occurred to me that I could get writer's block. Then as soon as I started thinking about it, I started to worry about it happening to me. It was the equivalent of medical student's disease. This happens when medical students experience the symptoms of the disease they are studying. I started to bring the experience of writer's block into fruition just by thinking about it.   It was interesting to watch me bring something I had never considered before into my experience and make it feel real simply by thinking...

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How Getting Comfortable Being Uncomfortable Changed My Life – 3PGC Webinar

Being impacted by the Principles has transformed my life and supported me with having greater impact on the lives of my clients. When I look back at what supported the transformation, I see that I experienced a dramatic shift when I just got comfortable being uncomfortable.   I will share how my defining moment with The Principles shifted how I relate to my thinking and how this resulted in me becoming resilient in the face of my insecurity and self-doubt. This has helped me to improve my performance and resulted in a dramatic increase in my income and my downtime. Before being...

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Use Shame as a Compass to Steer Clear of Limiting Beliefs

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. — Anaïs Nin  I had an experience of shame recently. The belly dropping, sinking feeling, burning in the solar plexus kind of shame. I noticed how visceral the experience was. After it happened, I saw how the thinking that initiated my emotional response had been outside of my conscious awareness. It happened so fast. All of a sudden the feeling was present.   In the past, I would have reacted to my shame. I would have used my emotional experience...

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Let Go of Low Self-Esteem and Insecurity

One of the things that put me off writing in the past was the blank page. I didn’t know what to write. I didn’t trust that something, anything, would come forward. And if it did, I didn’t trust that what I wrote would be good enough. I felt I would be faced with my unworthiness, lack of competence, and impotence — my nothingness. What I didn’t understand was that nothing is not the same as unworthy. I didn’t know that not knowing is actually a transformative experience, not something to avoid. I now see that not knowing is not to...

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