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Rohini’s Blog

The Secret Behind Optimal Performance That Doesn’t Require Effort

The traditional focus for improving performance whether it is individual or organizational, is to work on improving motivation, ability and behavior. The premise is, that the most important variables for success are knowledge, skills and effort. From this perspective, all that is needed to get better results is to work harder, learn new and better skills, and be vigilant with self-discipline. This may produce incremental increases in results, but what happens when we reach the limit of how hard we can work, how self-disciplined we can be, and how skilled we can become? Does that mean performance has to stagnate?...

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We Are All in Recovery — Recovery of Our True Selves

I went to a workshop this week with Dr. Gabor Maté speaking about addiction. Maté spoke about the relationship between the trauma of unmet primary attachment needs and addiction. He defined the essence of trauma as not what happens to us, but the result of an internal disconnection from the body and the awareness of emotions. He sees what happens internally as creating trauma. He did not stay within the traditional realm of psychology in order to address the trauma. Instead, he quoted an unnamed spiritual teacher in California as saying, “The greater calamity is the lost connection with your...

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Success Coaching — Helping Clients See How They Can Take the Lid Off Their Potential

There is a distinction between coaching someone through teaching them techniques and providing them with structure and accountability so they can achieve more of their goals, and with coaching someone through teaching them about the spiritual context of how their experience is created. With the first approach it appears obvious how it would support greater levels of success in the world. With the second, it isn’t so clear how it fosters a higher level of achievement, but in my experience it is the far more effective method for igniting authentic, sustainable success.   It is the difference between teaching someone to fish...

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Soul-Centered Coaching: Opening Doors to Possibility and Living Into Potential

Traditional coaching focuses on working hard and achieving goals through determination and accountability. It emphasizes the importance of individual effort and sees success as being the result of labor expended. Consequently, lack of success would mean you didn’t work hard enough. There are a plethora of motivational quotes to support this perspective such as:   “Nothing worth having comes easy.” — Theodore Roosevelt  and   “The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person’s determination.” — Tommy Lasorda     However, in these times of stressed out individuals working so very hard, but experiencing less quality of life, coaching would benefit from using a wider...

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Love Grows the Bottom Line

I am getting more opportunities to provide coaching and trainings for corporations. This makes me reflect fondly on how I was first exposed to running and growing a business and developing employees. Like most things in my life it was a sink or swim approach to learning. There were three of us. All therapists with no formal business training between us. We took over the leadership of a small behavioural health company with locations across the country. The company was in crisis and at the brink of bankruptcy. There was overwhelming debt from the previous leadership team investing in the...

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Beyond the Illusion of Vulnerability to the Safety of the Unknown

I came up close and personal with the experience of vulnerability this weekend. I was participating in a coaching training and chose to share regarding my experience of vulnerability. I acknowledged my desire to be open and to connect with the group, and at the same time, I felt vulnerable. As much as I wanted to bond with others, another part of me wanted to shut down because I felt scared. My best attempt to deal with this was to push through my feelings of vulnerability and share. At least I wouldn’t be repressed by my fears. I would overcome...

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The Flip Side of Workaholism: Pursuit of the Elusive Free Time

Happy 2016! Wishing you a happy, healthy, prosperous, and enlightening year ahead!   For me, this is the year to learn how to take the pressure off myself. Having time off over the winter break revealed to me how tired I am. And I don’t mean the kind of tired one feels after grueling physical labor. I mean tired from feeling the pressure of stressing myself out through unconsciously buying into my fear and anxiety.   I started to see how I have created the new economy of time. Rather than fantasizing over having more money, I am now fantasizing about having more time:...

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