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Rohini’s Blog

Insecurity is an Ego Trip We Can Always Come Home From

I recently took an on-line personality test a friend shared on Facebook. I was surprised when one of the results indicated I have a big ego. I don't see myself as particularly arrogant or conceited. My character weaknesses tend to fall on the side of self-doubt and insecurity. Not that I took the test very seriously, but it did cause me to reflect on what it means to have a big ego.   It made me look at my experience of insecurity in a new way. I saw when I am experiencing self-doubt, I am actually self-absorbed and self-centered at those times,...

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Understanding We Live in Our World of Thought Sets Us Free

Even though most of my work currently is as a coach and a trainer, I do have a psychotherapy practice. I see clients experiencing a wide range of mental health challenges. One of the experiences I have learned an incredible amount from is psychosis. I think there is a lesson in it for all of us.   The mainstream understanding when someone is experiencing psychosis is that they have lost touch with reality. This is because they are experiencing hallucinations or delusional beliefs such as  grandiosity, pronoia, or paranoia that do not conform with "normal" human experience. Believing you are an important...

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Reflections on Love and Unity on Presidents’ Day in the U.S.

There is only one religion, the religion of love. There is only one language, the language of the heart. There is only one race, the human race ~ Sai Baba   Today is President's Day in the United States. It started out as a holiday commemorating George Washington's birthday on February 22nd, and was later moved to the third Monday in February to celebrate all presidents past and present. I choose this day to speak of love and unity.   There is tremendous division, anger, and upset over the current state of American politics both nationally and internationally. I have my Canadian and European friends...

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Three Keys That Transformed My Marriage

I was surprised by how popular my post "Marriage: The First Ten Years Were The Hardest" was. It really struck a nerve.   For Valentine's Day, I thought I would share the three keys that allowed me to fall in love with my husband all over again, and help me to keep falling in love with him more each day. I love you Angus!   Understanding my husband's upset is never personal. Part of what contributed to the suffering in our relationship was how reactive I was to Angus' anger. I had no tolerance for this behavior. I judged him for his anger. I saw...

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What a Relief — You Are Perfect Exactly As You Are!

Have you ever seen a self-help book or personal growth seminar that isn't focused on changing you? Every piece of marketing material that comes my way is tantalizing me to improve myself. The lure of being a better me with better thinking, better feelings, better achievements, and a better consciousness used to be so compelling, but it was also damaging. It painfully reinforced my belief that I was broken, damaged, and not good enough exactly as I was.   There are very few teachers telling people they are perfect exactly as they are. Not enough reassuring us there is no need to change,...

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“What Is” Beats a Good Idea Every Time!

I have ideas about God. They are not God. I have ideas about spirituality. They are not spirituality. This is of course common sense, but I didn't realize how enamored I had become with my ideas about my spiritual nature. I noticed recently I was seeking to live up to my ideas rather than simply experiencing what is. My ideas about spirituality were grandiose and extraordinary; however, I now see that my experience of my spiritual nature is often simple and ordinary. I kept dismissing this effortless wellbeing looking for the fireworks.  I have experienced the mind blowing force of...

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He Said, She Said: Angus’ Incredible Mind Reading Abilities

Rohini is shocked to find out that Angus feels triggered by her thoughts even when she doesn't say them out loud. This feels unfair to her, but she is reassured when Angus acknowledges that his feelings are a reflection of him giving meaning to his thoughts and nothing to do with her....

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