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You Are a Miracle and Looking Toward Your Miraculous Nature is Very Practical

How is the understanding that we are spiritual beings having a human experience helpful within the practical context of living the human experience? How does understanding there is no self, and we are living in an illusion help when the form of our experience requires food, water, shelter, and air, and when there are activities to do and agreements to keep. There is never a problem with our formless nature that is just bliss, but the actual human experience can feel very removed from the understanding that we are living in the illusion of our individuality and the world of...

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Rohini’s Nocturnal Foibles

I have a reputation of being able to sleep through anything other than the slightest of electronic sounds. Angus makes a good point in the Vlog that the difference is that I have more thinking about electronic noises and judgments about him not turning off his phone than I do about other sounds and that is why I don’t sleep through them. Just another example of how thought creates our experience. So useful to be able to see the role thought plays in life. In a very practical way, I might just get less bothered when Angus forgets to turn...

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The Soul-Centered Series Webinar with Dicken Bettinger

In this webinar, Dicken shares how the teachings of Sydney Banks shifted his work as a psychologist and his own views on personal development. Sydney Banks was the first person Dicken heard say that everyone has innate wellbeing inside of them but for their thinking.   If you would like to learn more about the six-month program The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks click here.  ...

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The Game of Life — No One Gets Out Alive

I am married to an Englishman who loves football, or soccer as they call it in the US,  so I have been watching many of the World Cup soccer games and really enjoying them. I am actually surprised at how much fun I’ve been having. There have been a lot of nail-biter finishes being decided by penalty shootouts. I’ve found myself not wanting to look and being compelled to look at the same time. The pressure has felt intense and enjoyable even if the team I was rooting for didn’t make it.   What I noticed is that when I experience...

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Teenage Shenanigans

Parenting can be challenging at times, and parenting teenagers takes it to a whole other level. Angus and I recognize that we can both take our daughters’ behavior personally at times. When we do, we aren’t present to what is going on with them. We are caught up in our own stories, making it about us, and that does not help our parenting. It is easy to forget that we live in separate realities and judge their behavior as not making sense. What were you thinking is a statement that often comes to mind, but from a place of judgment...

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The Goal is Not to Change Emotional Experience, Just Remember the Source that Creates It

I have noticed how I can be critical. I can be sharp. I don’t mean to be, but I can have an edge. This occurs when my personal thinking is stirred up. I am feeling separate. My “I” is strong. Then other times when my thinking is more settled my “I” softens and my heart opens. I feel connected and more peaceful.   I am struck by the benefit of the understanding of the principles for pointing out how I can be more neutral about not just being the soft “I” with the expanded heart. I put less pressure on myself...

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Angus and the Illusion of Listening

Listening is something that is so natural and simple, yet many people, Angus and I included, don’t do it all the time. We think we are listening or we give the impression that we are listening, but we are not fully present. Our mind is elsewhere. When this happens we miss out on connection and intimacy with another, but ultimately what we miss is the connection with ourselves. We feel our personal thoughts more than the oneness of who we all are.   Angus and I are not sharing this as a technique. There is no technique for listening. You are either...

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The Soul-Centered Series Webinar with Linda Pranksy

In this webinar, Linda shares some of her most profound and helpful insights from studying with Sydney Banks. She points us in the direction of our true nature of pure consciousness while also sharing how helpful it is to understand the map of our psychology.   To learn more about the six-month program The Soul-Centered Series with the original students of Sydney Banks click here.    ...

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Your Soul Sings the Song of Pleasure. Are You Ready to Dance?

I am doing an intensive with a client this weekend. The emerging theme is following the pleasure of the formless. It is hard to imagine that following pleasure is not normal, but  I understand this first hand. I used to automatically push myself. I wanted to compete. I thought being the best would prove my worth. Even when exposed to spiritual teachings I took the same approach. I was trying to get somewhere.   I would deprive myself of pleasure by forcing myself to get up at 4:30 am, taking cold showers, restricting my eating, pushing through the pain of sitting...

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Differences Are Only a Problem in a Low Mood

I don’t really sleep under a tarpaulin. For some reason Angus has taken exception to my weighted blanket. And he can get annoyed with my temperature needs that are different than his own, even though I am used to wearing extra layers, especially in the car. ?❄❄❄   But the point we are making is that from a good mood these differences are not issues or problems. They can be amusing, but they are not challenging. However, from a low mood they, and other differences between us, can look like real problems. ??   We have both gotten better at recognizing when we are...

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