The Random Nature of Our Emotional Experience

This Vlog was going to be an inspiring message about how it is possible to stay neutral and philosophical even in the face of challenges, but then Angus had a bit of a wobbler when the dog started wandering around and the more relevant point became how random it is what thoughts we get stirred up by and which ones we don’t. We sailed through some pretty big challenges, for the most part unruffled, but the dog knocking over the light and looking like he was going to eat the orchid got under Angus’ skin.   This just points to how random...

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Did I Choose the Wrong Partner?

This question comes up frequently when we work with couples who are struggling in their relationship and is a question we have both asked ourselves in the past. We really thought that we might have irreconcilable differences.   What we didn’t know is that we were seeing each other through the lens of our low moods. Our discontent was a reflection of our thoughts, not each other or our relationship. We were experiencing our own consciousness and not the other person.   Now if it starts to look like life would be better if I wasn’t married to Angus, I know I’m buying into...

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Trying To Be Special

I have a thing about feeling important.   I like to feel special. I like to be the favorite.   I don’t like being on the outside. I don’t like feeling less than. I don’t like feeling insignificant.   I want to be in the in-crowd. I want to finish first. I like coming out on top.   Trying to be all of this is really hard work and never satisfying because there is no such thing as arriving. There is never enough praise, validation, acknowledgment, adulation or success to take away feelings of unworthiness.   Even though I know better, at times, I still drop into feelings of self-doubt and insecurity....

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Following Inclinations and Christmas Tree Disposal

Angus having to dispose of our Christmas tree in a creative way because he missed the green bin helped him to experience the value of taking action on his inclinations even when he thought they weren’t going to go anywhere. I love that our inner promptings guide us in big and small ways. Often times our intellect tries to talk us out of taking action because it can’t make sense of it. But there is a deeper wisdom at play that we don’t have to figure out. It is only through taking action, moving forward, and gaining momentum that we...

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Is Peace of Mind Boring?

Someone shared with me recently that they liked their judgemental attitude. They did not want to get rid of it. I realized they were hearing what I was saying as prescriptive. They thought I was saying because we have innate peace within as a natural state, you should not focus on stirred up thinking and righteousness because they disturb the experience of inner peace. When all I was meaning to convey was how thoughts and feelings work.   When we bring life to our judgmental thoughts it creates suffering, but there is no requirement to stop. That is simply how it works....

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The Space: A Global Mastermind for Solopreneurs

Are you a solopreneur, out there on your own trying to grow your business? Would you love to have a small team helping you expand your thinking, get creative and take your results to new levels? Would you benefit from having 2 guides and mentors that have been there?   If so, please check out The Space: A Global Mastermind for Solopreneurs. Barb Patterson and I created this virtual mastermind because we have seen the power of masterminds in our own businesses. Combing the collective wisdom of the group, with the understanding of the principles behind performance creates a rich, robust and holistic experience.   We...

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The Art of a Peaceful Mind Kim Root Interview with Rohini Ross

In this interview is Rohini Ross shares:   How you can get to the peace without so much work   Don’t skip over the ordinary   How relationships can heal   Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, a regular blogger for Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) available on Amazon. You can get her free ebook Relationships here. Rohini currently has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they...

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Angus’ Wail Song

I think we can all relate to getting irritated with our partner. Sometimes it just blows over. Other times it blows up. Angus shares his experience where he felt irritated toward me but then woke up to how he was thinking of all kinds of negative things about me. In seeing what he was doing, it then made sense to him to not keep going down that rabbit hole because he recognized he would just get more stirred up. By understanding that his disturbance was not caused by me, but was actually being created within himself, he saw not to...

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You Don’t Have To Be Afraid of Your Negative Thinking

There is a well known Henry Ford quote, “Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right.” This statement tends to lead people in the direction of positive thinking and create superstition about negative thoughts. I speak with people who work very hard at trying to maintain their positive thinking. It can take a lot of time and effort. I used to be one of those people. I spent lots of time trying to manage and fix my thinking and it never ultimately worked. I was never able to banish my negative thought. This led me to feel...

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Embracing the Unknown

Angus lets go and allows himself to stretch into the unknown in "Owl Pose." Even though he is complaining about being manhandled and he sounds like he is reenacting that famous scene from the exorcist, I love that he is feeling inspired to embrace the unknown not just physically, but in life in general. I can certainly relate to creating more work for myself by worrying or trying to figure things out rather than simply being with what is and allowing life to reveal itself to me. Seeing that extra effort is not required leaves room for freshness and ease...

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