Rohini | Rohini Ross - Part 4

My Amazonian Ego

This is a creative writing piece. It is an exploration of how powerful the illusion of the ego is and how painful it is to get caught up in it.   The tight wire act of goodness is lifting further off the ground, and the wire is not getting any thicker or less precarious. My tentative walk across the gaping chasm of judgment and banishment feels even harder when my capricious mind flits to my desire to be liked and accepted.   My weakness is a source of shame for my ego, the iron lady. My ego is a warrior queen, Amazonian in stature...

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Sharing and Being of Service Webinar

This webinar explores how beneficial a spiritual understanding is during these uncertain times and calls you forward to listen to what your true nature wants to express in the world. There is no time like the present.   Here is the link for the Practitioner training program: https://www.rewildingyourrelationship.com/   Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, regular contributor to Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage. You can get her free eBook Relationships here. Rohini has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and...

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Emotional Intimacy

The ability to experience emotional intimacy in a relationship is a reflection of one's capacity to be open one's own emotional experience. Angus points out that often when we are seeking greater emotional intimacy with someone else it is a misguided attempt to fill the painful void of feeling separate from one's spiritual nature. Relationships are not designed to fill that void and they suffer when unrealistic expectations are placed on them to do so.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them...

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What Does Love Want to Express Through You?

I have been spending most of my time this past week indoors with the air purifier running due to unhealthy air quality from the fires. I am missing my daily hikes with Angus and Niko. And it is experiences like this that are great reminders to look within for wellbeing. They also highlight how the old model of seeing ourselves as 7.8 billion individuals competing for survival on this beautiful blue planet is not working.   It is time to come together to SEE and EXPERIENCE the ONENESS behind our temporary human experience. This vantage point changes everything and makes it clear that...

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Love is Your Compass

Love is Your Compass   Let your personal self soften so it gives way to the impersonal. Let the tears flow, but don’t let them go unseen. Let yourself receive the love that you yearn for. Ask for it. Claim it. Reveal your neediness and deep yearning for love. It is primal. Eschew the seeking of security in the known, in favor of the risk of annihilation in the unknown. What gets lost is not needed. What is left is true. Truth can only be felt when the hard exoskeleton of misunderstanding melts into the oneness of all things. This is what you long for. It is also what you fight against. The time for wrestling for...

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Saying Yes For An Easy Life

Angus used to take what looked like the easy route by saying yes to Rohini in order to avoid a potential emotional reaction on her part, but it usually still ended in grief and suffering down the road because he wouldn't follow through and Rohini would feel disappointed and dismayed by his disregard for keeping agreements. Have a deeper connection with their wellbeing coming from within helped them both.   When Angus became more connected with his inner wellbeing, he was less concerned about Rohini's emotional reactions, and with Rohini being more connected with her wellbeing she was less emotionally reactive. She...

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The Ego Doesn’t Know When to Stop

Angus points to how easy it is to get sucked in the ego’s desire for more. From the personal view, there is never enough. The ego keeps looking for the pot of gold thinking just one more thing and then I will feel better. It is easy to get caught up in this pattern. Rohini had a sore back and wasn’t feeling well earlier in the week. She recognized how she got enamored with her intellect and forgot to listen to her deeper wisdom that was telling her to relax and slow down. In addition to the constellation of thoughts...

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Rewilding Your Relationship: Love is Your Natural State

If you missed the first two parts of this series you can read them by clicking here: Rewilding Your Relationship Even if You Feel, Discouraged, Disheartened or Desperate Part 1 Make Room For Humanness Part 2   Part 3 Love is Your Natural State   We tend to be attracted to people who will push our buttons. It feels like the innate intelligence behind life knows exactly who we need to be with in order to help us wake up in consciousness. Often at the beginning of a romantic relationship, there is a period of time when all we see is the good in our partner....

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Rewilding Your Relationship: Make Room for Humanness

To read Part 1 click here.   Part 2   Make Room for Humanness   No one is perfect. We all have our frailties. A rewilded relationship has room for the whole person. It does not require efforts to tame ourselves or our partner. We have become a self-help addicted society constantly focusing on self-improvement thinking that will get us to the holy grail of happiness. But focusing on trying to improve what is not working and what isn’t good enough has us miss the beauty and goodness of what is present.    As with part 1, start with yourself here too.   Can you see that any efforts...

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Rewilding Your Relationship — Even if You are Feeling Discouraged, Disheartened, or Desperate

Part 1   Start with yourself!   Angus and I work with many couples who are in committed relationships that have lost their spark. It is often described as living like roommates or having a business relationship. Sometimes these couples have very little conflict in their relationship, but they feel like they are coexisting. Other times there is high conflict at times that leads to polarization and periods of distance. Believe it or not, conflict is an attempt to connect and experience intimacy. These couples actually feel more hope than the couples that no longer have conflict in their relationship. They are still willing...

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