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Romantic Love: A Sophisticated Bait-and-Switch Tactic

[vc_row row_type="row" type="full_width" text_align="left" video="" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_column_text]Romantic love is one of the more sophisticated cons out there. Most of us have, at one time or another, felt the euphoria of "being in love". It might last for two minutes, two days, two weeks, two months, or two years, and then like a thief sneaking out under cover of darkness, the feeling disappears along with the rose colored glasses we saw our partner through. We are now left viewing them under the harsh glare of fluorescent lights that accentuate every character flaw and give the impression of weaknesses that don't even exist....

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What a Relief to Know I Don’t Need to Keep Working on Myself

Seek without seeking, for what you hope to attain is already within you. -- Sydney Banks   It was such a relief when I realized I did not have to keep working on myself and striving for self-improvement. I had been successful in many ways with an amazing husband, wonderful children, a successful psychotherapy practice, and a lovely home, but I struggled to relax and really appreciate my life. I was plagued with feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. I did not feel good enough. I felt unworthy. No amount of success on the outside made a difference. I had pursued many avenues of personal...

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Slow and Steady is Fine if You Are a Tortoise, but What if You Have the Temperament and Constitution of a Hare?

After returning from London, I got a sinus infection that left me with very low energy. I found myself only able to do essential tasks. I rested a lot, watched tv, and read novels. I didn’t even eat that much. I survived mostly on soup that I made in a huge batch and kept simmering on the stove. My husband and eldest daughter were still in London, and fortunately, my youngest daughter is old enough to fend for herself. As I emerge from the experience, I notice how relaxed I feel, and even though I am feeling better, I don’t...

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Debt Collector Madness, and Owning the Infinite, Creative Power of Thought

  Life is an illusion, but we play it as real. — Sydney Banks   I randomly picked up an envelope in the large pile of mail I had waiting for me upon returning from my trip. It looked innocuous enough, and as good a place as any to start. However, when I opened it, I was stunned. It was a letter from a collection agency stating that I owe thousands of dollars in taxes to the State of Colorado.   I have neither lived in Colorado nor worked in Colorado. I have been a happy, tax paying resident of California for over twenty years....

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Wake Up to Your Well Being and Share Your Love

I am at the airport incredibly early now that I have embraced my husband’s caution regarding missing flights. I would have still made the flight if there had been an earthquake in London. However, since I am traveling alone, this gives me plenty of time to reflect on the amazing three-day workshop I just finished co-facilitating.   The workshop was amazing because of the incredible participants. The level of openness, willingness, authenticity, vulnerability, honesty, and courage they demonstrated was deeply inspiring. I feel grateful to have witnessed the transformation and learning that each person demonstrated and shared. The depth of the love...

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Yes, My Experience is Created From the Inside Out: Except When it Comes to My Teenager!

Understanding where my experience comes from is liberating.   Recognizing I am the thinker of my reality, and, as a result, my experience can shift in an instant — as quickly as my thinking can change — frees me up to not get freaked out by uncomfortable emotional states. One, because I know my feelings will improve once my thinking settles, and two, because I know when I am feeling discomfort, my thinking is distorted. I am, therefore, more skeptical of my thoughts at these times. This makes me less likely to fuel my negative thoughts; thus, preventing them from multiplying and...

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Love is the Guide to Inner Freedom and Outer Peace

[vc_row row_type="row" type="full_width" text_align="left" video="" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_column_text] I was moved by a comment left on my blog last week by Maria Ginnerup, “Showing others how to take their masks off by taking off your own, is maybe not sexy, but it’s an act of love.” Genuineness is important to me. Authenticity feels like the intersection of humanity and divinity where the two are one. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row row_type="row" type="full_width" text_align="left" video="" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_separator type="transparent" thickness="10"][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row row_type="row" type="full_width" text_align="left" video="" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_column_text]Working as a therapist and a coach, I am struck by how often the clients I work with present as high functioning and together in the...

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