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Take Your Eyes Off The Scoreboard and Live Your Life!

I was at a training recently and basketball coach John Wooden, famous for winning ten NCAA National championships for UCLA in a 12-year period, was mentioned. The anecdote shared was that while coaching his team at half-time, a rookie player piped up and said, "We are x number of points up. We are doing okay!" John Wooden told him to forget about the scoreboard and focus on playing the game to the best of his abilities.   I recognized how pertinent this advice is for life. It is so easy to get caught up in measuring how we are doing and to...

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Optimal Performance Doesn’t Require Perfection

I have been writing my blog for over a year, and this is the first time I haven't been sure what to write about. Normally something stands out during the week, and I make a mental note to write about it. This week my brain has been foggy. When I reflected on this, I realized my mood has been lower than usual. I think this may be related to the Ketogenic diet I started last Sunday.   I began the diet because I have put on about twenty pounds over the past year. This is very unusual for me and seems to...

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Are We Human or Are We Divine?

"Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and embrace who you are." -- Brené Brown  The ego's mantra is to feel more, do more, have more, be more. It screams, "I am not enough!" It believes the next moment, the next hour, the next future will better. We humans can so easily get pulled into these thoughts.   Given that, how do I sit with my insecure thinking? How do I accept feeling my unworthiness?  I find it easier to be with these thoughts and feelings when I realize they are simply part and parcel of the human experience. I...

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The Miraculous Nature of Thought

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein   The first time I went to La Conner, WA on a four day intensive with Linda Pransky, I had an insight that hit me like a ton of bricks. When I arrived, I believed the way for me to have a deeper experience and connection with my true Self was to fix every belief in my thought system that was distorted. I thought the path to God was to get rid of all my...

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Taking the Plank Out of My Eye — Nothing Can Disturb My Peace Other than My Thinking

When I scrolled through my emails recently, I saw one from an established coach listed as personal. The email title was my name. When I open the email, it said, "Do you have space for a new coaching client, Rohini?" I have seen this email before. I remember it.   Six months ago, I was speaking with a new coach developing his practice. We were discussing how his business was going, and he was very excited that he had received a personal email from this coach asking him if he was interested in new coaching client. He assumed the email was specific...

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Letting Go Allows Wisdom to Do the Heavy Lifting

One of my client's told me recently he was too afraid to let go. He couldn't trust that Mind, Spirit, God, Universal Intelligence, Love, whatever label you want to use, would have his back. He believed he had to confront the challenges he was experiencing through his own brute force and willpower. In his certainty and fear, there was no room to receive inspiration and fresh thought. His behavior made sense based on his understanding there was nothing greater than himself. He believed letting go of the fight and struggle would ultimately result in catastrophe.   My experience tells me the opposite...

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I do not want to love myself — I want to know myself as love.

Working as a therapist and a coach, clients often share with me an intention of feeling worthy and having good self-esteem. In the past, I might have supported them with identifying the misunderstandings in their consciousness responsible for their painful feelings of not being good enough. This certainly provides respite, and helps clients see their beliefs as false. It allows them to let them go of the limited thinking and experience a more accurate understanding of themselves. Working with the content of thought and clarifying it so a deeper realization can emerge is healing. However, there is another way to address...

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Losing my Mind and Waking Up to my Self

I thought I lost my mind one day this week. I started out the morning feeling very proud of myself because I was so organized. I had an earlier than usual client session, and my youngest daughter had just started school. We weren't quite in the swing of things yet. My husband was out of town, but everything was going swimmingly. My daughter was up on time, on track for getting to school, and I was ready to go.   There was construction happening outside of our home. We were notified to move our cars by 7 am. I was out of...

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Accepting Ourselves Warts and All Brings Out the Best in Us

I just finished co-facilitating a Less Stress, More Living Workshop. It was so moving to witness the participants experience more freedom of mind and have a deeper connection with their true nature. One of the themes that emerged during the workshop was a concern that if we hold the perspective that everyone is doing the best that they can based on their understanding in the moment that this would condone bad behavior and ultimately encourage it.   This reminded me of a story one of my mentors, Linda Pransky, shared at a workshop. She explained there was a time when she had problems...

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Delicious Relationships Are Created, not Found

I felt some sadness this morning while looking at our silverware. It was a wedding gift, and I noticed how many pieces were missing. I remember making the decision to use our wedding cutlery in our day-to-day lives. I wanted to enjoy it rather than bring it out only for special occasions. It felt right to use it, and appreciate it.   The disappearing cutlery has been going on for some time. I first noticed that our teaspoons were getting low. When I saw this, I accused my husband, Angus, of throwing them away because he can be absent minded at times....

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