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Wishing you a 2017 (or whatever number you label it) filled with love and blessings!

One of the items I had the most resistance to leaving behind while on holiday in Sri Lanka was my computer. Now as I write this, by hand, I am having resistance to getting back on it. It is a refreshing reminder of how habits can change, and how malleable we are as humans. I went from feeling like my world would end with out having access to my computer, to relishing the last moments of my vacation before opening it up again.   I can also feel the clunkiness of getting back into my writing groove. Although jet lag may be playing...

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Taking the Easy Road: No Thinking, Just Doing

It has been a busy week in the Ross household. Our daughters have their final exams, and we are feeling the impact as a family. However, for the most part, moods are good. We are all looking forward to going to Sri Lanka for the winter break. We are meeting my dad, my step-mom, and my brother there. As many of you know, I did not grow up with my father. This will be an opportunity for us to connect in his homeland, deepen my understanding of my heritage, and share this with my family. I look forward to being in...

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Relationship Rescue: Don’t Take Your Arguments Seriously

When I am upset, the whole world looks different. Before, I would react to my perceptions and try and fix things from a place of disturbance. If my relationship looked like a problem, I would work on that. This usually resulted in fireworks and not of the sexual kind. If work was looking like a challenge, I would consume myself with trying to figure it out. This left me feeling stressed, discouraged, and hopeless, as I would mentally wear myself out from the unproductive spinning of my negative thoughts.   In the past, I have been overly focused on the shifting experience...

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I Stand with the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe and Their Allies — Do You?

This post is a different style than my typical blogs. It has been described by an early, anonymous reader (who I happened to be married to) as boring and too factual. The criticism was there wasn't enough heart in it. I have made some edits based on the feedback, and, for me, my heart is behind the facts. I care deeply about the right to sovereignty of the Native Americans. I care deeply about the safety of the drinking water of the Missouri River, and I care deeply about the ravages of the fossil fuel industry on this planet. My heart...

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Relax! Your Personality is Just a Thin Slice of Who You Are

It is such an easy trap to fall into, thinking our upset comes from outside of us. I have done it and still do it at times. It is easy to buy into the illusion that we feel our circumstances and not our thinking. Our emotions flood our experience so quickly it is hard to see the role thought plays in creating our reality.   Just this week I got really flustered when a video conference link wasn't working. I couldn't get into the meeting room to join the group I was supposed to be facilitating. When it was happening, it felt...

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Let Love Lead: No Matter Who is the President of the United States!

I am guilty of being a liberal, coastal, elitist. Living in my California bubble of progressive values while eating lots of kale, and, thanks to proposition 64, I can now add juicing raw cannabis to my health regime with legal impunity. I have the privilege of living a blessed life with very little suffering day-to-day. I received a wake-up call when I saw the results of the 2016 American election. I see the outcome as a symptom of tremendous pain and disillusionment. Donald Trump being the President-elect of the United States could not have happened without people having very little...

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Marriage: The First Ten Years Were the Hardest

My husband, Angus, and I received a lovely compliment recently. I was asked how long we have been married. When I replied twenty-two years, the person who asked was surprised. She said, "I thought you were newlyweds." This made me smile. I recognized how much love and appreciation I have for Angus now. Funnily enough, this is not how I felt as a newlywed.   Angus and I did go through our honeymoon phase, but that ended before we got married. When we were first married, and for quite some time after, our relationship was challenging. We were both working in the...

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Less Thinking, More Living!

I just finished being the co-MC, with my husband, Angus, for the 3PGC conference in Los Angeles. The conference had amazing Three Principles practitioners from all over the world speaking. There were both seasoned and new teachers sharing their insights. The focus of the conference was redefining happiness. The speakers each pointed in their unique way to happiness being deeper than a transitory state of mind, and instead, a permanent, unchanging state of consciousness that is a hallmark of our true nature. We don't need to do anything or create a certain circumstance to have it. It is who we...

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You Are Enough — No Matter What Experience You Create for Yourself

I have just finished co-facilitating a training with Linda Pransky. What an amazing weekend! It was so much fun to work with her and to share with the attendees the simplicity of the Three Principles. I am left with feeling deep gratitude for the opportunity to be myself and to connect with others being themselves, knowing this in itself is healing. The focus of the training was working with others from the understanding of the Three Principles. These principles were articulated by Sydney Banks after his enlightenment experience. They provide a description of how human psychological functioning works, and are a way of...

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The Power of Just Being You

Enlightenment only becomes available when it has been accepted it cannot be achieved. -- Tony Parsons   I read a personal story at The Spark Off Rose last week. I was surprised by how comfortable I felt. I had never been that at ease in front of an audience before.Without my nerves, I was present in my body. I did not experience a buffer between myself and the people listening. I felt incredibly vulnerable and safe. In the past, I had always associated vulnerability with fear. This was different.   The gift I experienced from me just showing up as me was that this...

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