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From Nothing Comes Everything

I am the product of East meets West. I have a Sri Lankan father and an English mother. When it comes to spirituality, I like the best of both worlds. In the East emptiness is sought after and revered. In the West, it is feared and seen as nihilistic. The West seems to prefer the fullness of love. For me, both are true.   In the fleeting moments when I experience emptiness, the space where there is nothing. It is in this nothingness that I experience everything. It is in that space that I touch the most exquisite feelings I have ever known.   One...

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Insecurity is an Ego Trip We Can Always Come Home From

I recently took an on-line personality test a friend shared on Facebook. I was surprised when one of the results indicated I have a big ego. I don't see myself as particularly arrogant or conceited. My character weaknesses tend to fall on the side of self-doubt and insecurity. Not that I took the test very seriously, but it did cause me to reflect on what it means to have a big ego.   It made me look at my experience of insecurity in a new way. I saw when I am experiencing self-doubt, I am actually self-absorbed and self-centered at those times,...

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Understanding We Live in Our World of Thought Sets Us Free

Even though most of my work currently is as a coach and a trainer, I do have a psychotherapy practice. I see clients experiencing a wide range of mental health challenges. One of the experiences I have learned an incredible amount from is psychosis. I think there is a lesson in it for all of us.   The mainstream understanding when someone is experiencing psychosis is that they have lost touch with reality. This is because they are experiencing hallucinations or delusional beliefs such as  grandiosity, pronoia, or paranoia that do not conform with "normal" human experience. Believing you are an important...

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Reflections on Love and Unity on Presidents’ Day in the U.S.

There is only one religion, the religion of love. There is only one language, the language of the heart. There is only one race, the human race ~ Sai Baba   Today is President's Day in the United States. It started out as a holiday commemorating George Washington's birthday on February 22nd, and was later moved to the third Monday in February to celebrate all presidents past and present. I choose this day to speak of love and unity.   There is tremendous division, anger, and upset over the current state of American politics both nationally and internationally. I have my Canadian and European friends...

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Three Keys That Transformed My Marriage

I was surprised by how popular my post "Marriage: The First Ten Years Were The Hardest" was. It really struck a nerve.   For Valentine's Day, I thought I would share the three keys that allowed me to fall in love with my husband all over again, and help me to keep falling in love with him more each day. I love you Angus!   Understanding my husband's upset is never personal. Part of what contributed to the suffering in our relationship was how reactive I was to Angus' anger. I had no tolerance for this behavior. I judged him for his anger. I saw...

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