Feeling the Low Mood Blues

I used to think the understanding of the Principles was supposed to stop me from being in a low mood. I thought that if I could just get enough understanding low moods would never strike again. And when I experienced a low mood, I thought this meant I didn’t know enough, and I felt pressure to see more so that I could end my suffering.   It didn’t occur to me that wanting to see more actually causes suffering.   Now I am feeling low. Life feels hard. My usual zest is not there. There isn’t anything difficult going on. There is no...

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Hands Free Parenting

I'm on my way back home from the Pransky Professional training. Grateful not to be snowed in at Seatac, and even though I have a sore throat and a headache I am feeling lighter and freer as I leave. My heart feels wide open.   I love the impact of listening to people share their personal experience of truth as a way of pointing to the Truth that is universal and can't be named. Even though the impersonal and personal can never meet, pointing to the singular in this way has a feeling that goes along with it. It is not conceptual...

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Celebrating Martin Luther King Jr. and Remembering the Dream!

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. -- Martin Luther King, Jr.   Today is Martin Luther King Jr. day in the United States. It is a holiday that commemorates Dr. King's life and work. He led a movement for racial justice and equality and embraced nonviolent action as a powerful revolutionary force for social change. He employed Gandhi's philosophy of nonviolence as the means to confront racist laws and discrimination in America. His work made a significant contribution to President Lyndon Johnson signing into law the historic Civil Rights...

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Ready To Let Go Of The Struggle Of Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions?

The New Year arrives and creates a natural opening to get reflective and many people use this time to think about upleveling their lives and improving themselves. As part of this process, many make New Year’s resolutions. This has been going on for thousands of years since the Babylonians made promises to their gods at their New Year to pay debts and return borrowed items in order to earn good favor.   There is nothing wrong with having goals and looking toward growth and change, but according to various studies, 80 to 92% of New Year's resolutions fail. This is common...

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Wishing You A Heart Filled With Gratitude!

Wishing you a Happy Holiday Season, and a Happy Christmas Eve for those who are celebrating!   I am having a quiet time over the winter break. It has been a very full year. I am very grateful for all that has unfolded. I am also reminded, however, of how I can overdo it. I am much better than I used to be in this regard, but when my back went out last week I got a not so gentle reminder to rest.   It is my intention to rest over the break. To have a quiet stay-cation and get cozy with Angus. Our...

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Inner Peace and Relationships

I am doing an interview for an upcoming online series with Kim Root, The Art of a Peaceful Mind: How to Find Peace, Inner Strength and Confidently Tap Into Your Intuition. I am speaking to peace of mind in relationships. As I was thinking about the interview, it struck me how ironic it is that the people we are closest to and who we love the most are usually the people with whom we can be the most reactive and have the least peace of mind.   I am pretty even keel most of the time. I am laid back, polite, and...

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The Counter-Intuitive Approach to Less Emotional Suffering

I used to think that less suffering would come from managing my thinking so I could create a nicer experience for myself. I believed that if I could avoid negative thoughts then I wouldn't have negative emotions. I did not realize how much work this would be, nor did I see how the pressure of constantly trying to control my thoughts would create more suffering rather than less.   I discovered the easier way to live in a nicer feeling more of the time was paradoxical. Instead of me trying to create a good feeling, what I noticed is that if I...

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Goodwill is the Fertile Soil that Allows Relationships to Thrive

I had some of my reflections after watching the live-stream of the Pransky and Associates Working with Couples Training this weekend. The importance of goodwill in a relationship stood out to me as essential. It is as vital the richness of soil is for plants to grow in. If goodwill is low, it is impossible for a relationship to thrive, and goodwill is not about loving your partner in an abstract sense. It is authentic day-to-day warmth, appreciation, kindness and genuinely liking your partner. It is practical and felt.   If goodwill is low in a relationship, it is likely the result of...

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Navigating a Big Transition with More Ease

There is a big transition afoot in our household with our eldest daughter leaving for college and emotions are running higher than normal. What Angus​ and I love about the understanding of the Principles is that it lets us be with our humanness and our frailties in a gentler and more compassionate way, both for ourselves and for each other. And we did look up the dog in Peter Pan. Her name was Nana. She was a Newfoundland. The Abyssinian Mountain dog that Angus referred to is a mythical creature of his imagination.   Rohini and Angus are both coaches. They work...

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The Soul-Centered Series Webinar with Amy Johnson

Here is the recording of today's webinar with Amy Johnson.     Amy Johnson is the bestselling author of The Little Book of Big Change. She has a global online community, The Little School of Big Change, and she has just released her podcast Changeable. In this interview, Amy shares how the teachings of Sydney Banks impacted her life personally, and how they shifted her work with clients. Amy has a profound understanding of the Principles shared by Sydney Banks and uses this to help people all over the world free themselves from unwanted habits by helping them to experience more freedom of...

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